I’ve been pretty absent from here lately because I haven’t had any free time recently. We’re in the wedding-baby-preschool circuits right now, which means our refrigerator is plastered with save-the-dates and invitations and the paper calendar we have hanging on the wall has something written on almost every Saturday and Sunday, and sometimes more than one thing. I keep trying to finish Part II of What my kids are eating, but it’s taking forever so instead I’m going to do an interlude with what’s currently going on in my life.
1.I’m struggling with keeping paper, Facebook, email, and word-of-mouth invitations/appointments straight right now. It’s easy at work where everything automatically goes into your Outlook calendar, and is synched with your phone. I can’t stand when people email a meeting/event date/time and don’t follow up with a meeting invite, and I think at this point most people I work with know that if I don’t have it in my calendar, I won’t be there. But there’s this weird disconnect outside the work world where no one ever sends me a calendar invite, so I also feel weird sending one to them. Because most of our non-work events happen on weekends, it works pretty well to put them on our paper calendar. Email and Facebook invites do occasionally get lost, and if I’m in a semi-social setting and trying to wrangle my children it’s safe to just assume I’ll forget whatever you just asked me to do/go to. On top of that, Ryan and I can’t really share a calendar because his work calendar is encrypted or something as it’s private information. Does anyone have a suggestion for how to do keep track of social events coming in through various media?
2. March has always been my least favorite month, and this past March just reinforced that. Lily and Maggie were both sick and ended up with ear infections, both of which had to be progressively treated with amoxicillin and then Augmentin, and, as you can imagine, both subsequently ended up with yeast infections despite our efforts to have them eat yogurt and also give them probiotics daily. So add trying to keep track of the little cards they write appointments on at the doctors into the mix. Wah. The one Saturday we had free in March (which only happened because we celebrated Ryan’s birthday on a Friday), I ended up having to take them both into the doctors (PS, I feel like taking one kid to the doctor’s used to seem semi-overwhelming which just makes me laugh now because taking 2 seems like nothing).
My mom, Maggie, and I took our first road trip which was ridiculous to pack for because I had a conference the first two days that I also had to set up a vendor table for, and then we had my sister’s baby shower the second half of the trip, which meant we had my stuff, Maggie’s stuff, my mom’s stuff, my stuff for the conference, and everything for the baby shower packed into the car. This meant that my evenings leading up to the trip were pretty consumed with trying to pack but also trying to cram in as much time with Lily as possible since it was the longest period of time I had ever spent away from her.
The upside of the trip (aside from my sister’s shower and getting to see her and a lot of our long-distance family) was that Maggie traveled fabulously and didn’t experience any sleep regressions (which used to happen when we traveled with Lily), and I got to take her swimming for the first time. The downside is that Lily touched something in the forest and suddenly had these white spots/dots in her eye, and then she later vomited so profusely and was so out of it that Ryan thought she was potentially having a serious allergic reaction (definitely in the realm of possibility with her history) and called an ambulance (lie: he had his friend’s girlfriend call the ambulance while he dealt with a vomit-covered, delirious Lily). I don’t know why, but these things never happen when I’m around and Ryan is always the one who gets vomited on. Thanks, husband. Despite his best efforts to clean all the things and air out the upstairs, our bedroom wreaked of puke when I got home. Lily was back to normal though.
We didn’t have anything scheduled this past weekend for the first time since I can remember, but Ryan does work a few hours every weekend if you count that. This upcoming weekend is Easter and the various celebrations for that, followed by Maggie’s bday weekend (plus a preschool birthday party the next day). Then the last weekend in April I have a playdate I scheduled months ago, after which I work, and then we have a dinner…all in the same day. Maybe we can cancel Maggie’s 12 month checkup because the dinner is with her doctor? Jk. Sort of. Oh wait–just remembered I worked last Saturday, and spent last week coordinating showings and then actually showing our apartment that we are renting out for the first time because our current tenants (also known as my husband’s cousin and his girlfriend) are moving to Texas (briefly!). Can we talk Craigslist etiquette? Please use full sentences people. And “can I see it” doesn’t count. Nor does, “how much.”
3. May is the official launch of wedding season. So. Many. Weddings. Some are local, some not so much. I’m going to the 2 local ones (both of which are the big party-type wedding so I’m looking forward to that), and then my best friend is getting married in July in Florida. I’m going to take a few extra days off for that wedding, and Lily and I are flying down together. I am so beyond excited to go on an adventure with Lily and to see my bff and her family for the first time in a very long time. Can we also just mention that she’s getting married to her high school boyfriend? They spent college apart and then ran into each other in grad school and have been together ever since. And her mom has never even met Lily. I’m tearing up just thinking about this. Ryan will probably go to the out of town ones, and I may go to the regionally local ones.
4. BABIES! Everyone is having babies right now. But even more exciting, my sister and my SIL are both having babies this summer. I haven’t been an aunt to a new baby as an adult (I was 9 when my first nephew was born), and I’ve never lived near a niece/nephew. My SIL lives nearby so this will be really exciting.
5. Travel plans for the rest of the year: Ryan is traveling for work twice before the end of the summer, and I’m going to Saratoga in July and Albany in September for work. My trips will only be 2 nights tops, but going away with the kids at home is so difficult. It’s also not like you get half a day to recover after traveling for work, which I feel like you should between needing to pack and then come back and unpack and do laundry and get your life back in order before launching into the next week. I’m then going to LA in September to see my new nephew. I’ve never been to CA before so this will be another adventure. Ryan and I usually have another trip in September but we’re not sure if we’ll be going this year. I think we may have some breathing room in August? I’m going to try to take off every other Friday so we can enjoy the summer a bit.
6. For the first time in over 4 years, I am neither breastfeeding, pumping, nor pregnant. I basically don’t know what to do with myself. I stopped pumping because I had several days this past month where I was only able to pump once, so my supply plummeted. After that, I was doing so much work to get such a little bit of milk that I threw in the towel. I already feel so much more relaxed not having to worry about pumping and cleaning my parts and packing my pump stuff. The only problem is I’ve never weaned a baby off a bottle, and Lily probably didn’t have regular milk until she was almost 2 (but honestly I can’t remember). Downside of this being the first time in 4 years I have my body all to myself: I have to learn how to eat like a normal person again. I’m one of those people you hate while I’m breastfeeding, because I hover a few pounds below my normal weight. I’m already jealous of my breastfeeding self. I’ve indulged my sweet tooth the past 3.5 years (I didn’t enjoy sweets while pregnant with Lily), and it’s not going to miraculously go away so this is going to be a challenge. What I’m most looking forward to about not pumping: all the shelf space in my kitchen I’m going to have back. We have a shelf dedicated to pump parts and Mason jars, and we really need this for other stuff. And maybe my back getting back to normal.
7. Last night I was reading Lily a library book that compares feelings to animals, one of which is “Do you ever feel stubborn as a mule?” She responded to this with, “I was being stubborn as a mule when I wouldn’t put the frog away.” How is she so smart? I love hearing what she comes up with. I used to be really good about putting things in this app in my phone, but I haven’t been doing that recently.
8. Surprise tonight: Lily fell asleep at 6:45 on the 6 minute drive home. Maggie was in bed by 7:15. I got to spend an hour weeding and planting outside. They’ll probably each wake up 15 times to make up for it but ohhh that was nice.
So that’s why I haven’t been around. But I promise, baby muffins coming soon